Break ups #101

It is no secret that break ups suck but they happen, whether we like it or not. It is also no secret that no one really knows what to do not only for themselves, but also for friends, when the dreaded Facebook status returns to being single.

I’ve thought of some things that I think might help. Just remember that everyone has their own way of dealing with tricky situations – there is no right or wrong.

Do’s:

1. Make sure you still know who you are. Too often people lose themselves in relationships. No matter how much you love your partner or how much time you guys spent together, you have got to remain true to who you are.
2. Set aside some ME TIME. This will do wonders for you. Even if you are a social butterfly, just having a peaceful bubble bath could release your stresses, sooth your soul and rejuvenate your smile.
3. Set new goals for yourself – be it to make a new friend or to find a new hobby. Find something that will bring you joy.
4. Let your friends and family help you. Support is a must when recovering from a break up. Don’t bottle up your feelings . It will only lead to more pain in the long run.
5. Have fun! Crying your life away won’t help anyone. No one expects you to suck up your tears 24/7 but if the opportunity presents itself, don’t think twice about going out and having a few laughs. You know what they say: laughter is the best medicine!

Don’ts:

1. Don’t go begging for your ex-partner to take you back. Where is the dignity and self-respect in that? If you guys are meant to be, you will be.
2. Don’t be ashamed to miss your ex-partner. No one expects your feelings for them to disappear overnight. Remember and embrace the good times but be smart enough to move on and learn from the relationship in order to take part in something better in the future.
3. Never blame yourself for every wrong doing in a relationship. Relationships are two way things. It takes two to tango! Just remember, no one is perfect and that includes you.
4. Don’t put your health at risk. Eat some food, go for a walk. Try not to neglect your needs. Getting better and finding happiness again should be your number one priority.

When to end a relationship:

1. If your partner ever hit you, end it.
2. If your partner ever emotionally abused you, belittled you or made you feel as though you were not worthy, end it.
3. If your partner cheated on you, it’s over! If they can do it once, they sure as hell can do it twice.

If all fails, rent a comedy, grab the biggest spoon you can find and dive into a huge tub of ice cream with your best friends.

Just keep in mind that people will only continue to help you if you are willing to help yourself.

 

“If you’re single, focus on being a better you instead of looking for someone better than your ex. A better you will attract a better next.” – unknown

I hope this helps!

Feel free to give me feedback!

 

Angie

xx