Have you even wondered what the male specie finds sexy? Have you ever wondered if you make their “Damn, but she is attractive” book?
I may have the perfect way to ease your minds. I have asked quite a few of my male friends what they find attractive, as well as unattractive, to help us fellow females out. The boys consist of various races and are between the ages of 16 – 21. They are also all quite handsome, if I may say so myself. 😉
Let us look at the glass as being half full start with what The Boys find attractive:
Something that came up a lot is when a girl looks after herself. Ladies, wash that hair. Shave those legs. Floss those teeth. No seriously, how you present yourself makes a huge difference when it comes to how you feel about yourself and how guys feel about you. It is all about taking pride in your appearance.
Another thing that came up quite a lot is a girl with a sense of humour. I can’t think of anyone who would rather go on a book-reading date with a strict, uptight librarian than with a fun, loving, care free girl who can laugh at herself. Boys also find it very attractive when a girl has a unique laugh and isn’t scared to let her giggles escape her lips without a care in the world.
Sporty, fit girls. If that is you, I have got some good news: boys love sporty, fit girls. Don’t get me wrong, no one expects you to compete in the iron man to fit into this category. Just looking after your body can make a huge difference.
A super big one is NATURAL BEAUTY! Believe it or not but most guys prefer a girl with little or no makeup over a girl who plasters her face with makeup every morning. Boys love to see you for you, not your makeup brand.
One of my personal favourites is the fact that most boys like a girl with curves. No one wants to cuddle up to a stick on rainy night. If you have got a booty and big boobs, good for you! I guess what I am trying to say is that if that rich slice of death-by-chocolate cake is calling your name, no one will hate on you for indulging as long as it is in moderation. I can speak from personal experience: my boyfriend loves the fact that I eat and if you know me, you will also know that I wouldn’t need to book 2 seats on an aeroplane flight – one seat for each butt cheek.
I personally think CONFIDENCE is the key to being sexy. If you are comfortable in your own skin, others will be comfortable around you. If you don’t think you are worth something, how is anyone else suppose to?
Smile! It will melt any guy’s heart.
“Stay beautiful and be who you want to be. Don’t change for anyone. And stop pouting; your natural smile is gorgeous enough.” – Denver Sumption
Intelligence, ladies. No one likes a smart girl who plays dumb to get attention. If you fancy yourself a nerd, flaunt it! Being able to hold a conversation is a huge turn on for boys. Ambition is another thing that drives them crazy. Don’t be scared to share your dreams and to chase after them.
“Be yourself. Eventually the right person will come along” – Brett Cook
Being kind, caring, socialable and bubbly are also common traits that most boys like to see in a girl. Being a little shy can be cute but never be scared to do what makes you happy and speak your mind.
Funny enough, boys also love it when a girl is just chilling in her pj’s with a messy bun. Once again, keep it real.
A few other odd things that boys find attractive is a girl who is into gaming, who can cook and who can dance. No matter what your unique little talent is, show it off. You will never know if someone out there finds it irresistible if you keep it hidden.
Now, for those not so attractive things:
From what The Boys have told me, one of the biggest turn offs is a girl who smokes and drinks too much. I know when we were 13 and trying to fit in with the ‘cool kids’, we were all tempted to smoke and drink. Don’t. Not only are you ruining your body but you are doing it in vain. No one wants to kiss an ash tray. Don’t get me wrong, just because you smoke doesn’t make you a bad person and having the occasional drink at a party doesn’t make you a drunk. Just don’t overdo it.
Swearing is also a big no-no amongst the male specie. No one is perfect and we have all sworn before – that includes me – but don’t make it necessity. I also think that a guy shouldn’t expect a girl to never swear when all that comes out of his mouth is trash about everyone else’s mother and what he did to that chick from that party in bed last night. It all boils down to RESPECT. It you don’t have it, you better find it quick.
Dishonest girls also don’t sit well with any guy. This goes hand in hand with a girl being disloyal and untrustworthy. If you have got a man, commit to him and only him. Don’t go fishing around when your hook has already got a catch. I promise you, as long as you keep your man happy, he will do anything for you.
Arrogance is also quite the turn off. There is a fine line between being confident and arrogant. It is very hard to be around someone is too full of themselves.
Being a gossip queen also doesn’t exactly get the guys queuing at your front door. If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut.
At the end of the day, I think a girl who stays true to herself will always be seen as attractive in the eyes of someone who can appreciate her for her true beauty.
“Different girls have different qualities that make them sexy” – Vojislav Mijalkovic
I would just like to thank all The Boys who helped me out with this one. I really appreciate it!
Be true. Be you.*